Tuesday, December 20, 2005

THICK SKIN

I've had something on my mind for a few days now and it's been really bothering me. I don't usually put too many personal posts on my blog, just general family stuff. At any rate, this one is going to be a little personal. I figure that's what my blog is for, so I'm going to write about this.

I awoke very early this past Sunday and started my morning the usual way..coffee, smoke, more coffee. Trot over to my home office and check my emails. I scan through the "senders" to look for personal emails first. A sender caught my eye because it wasn't a name I recognized. I opened it up and began to read. I was sorry that I did.

I know you are reading my blog and you know who you are. However, I'm not going to name your full name. I wouldn't be that rutheless. However, I am going to directly address you as "Anne". I am also posting the email you sent to me in case your memory fails you. This is what "Anne" wrote to me:

"hi I have been reading your blog which really disgusts me I do believe you are a war monger !! I also read with interest yor blog as to how you support the troops and when a soldier you have sponsored comes home you send them the flag you had been flying in their honor while they were in Iraq I find this a disturbing lie You or so you say had been supporting the son of one of my friends He came home you knew he did He has yet to receive the package you say you send Also I noticed how you wished some of the people you sponsored a merry christmas on your blog Wy not mention all of them My friend's son's name was not mentioned Do you pick and choose or do you not do all you say you do I also feel you do this if in fact you do do it for your own self esteem as far as Christmas goes how do you tell your children about Christmas TELL THEM THE TRUTH THERE IS NO SANTA all good gifts come from God Not Santa We teach our chidren not to lie yet we lie to them every Christmas"

Let me just say I know exactly which Marine she is talking about. But I'm going to say a few things to you in response for all to read.

1. I am not a liar. I do not lie.
2. It's none of your business as to when I was going to send the flag. However, since you've decided to make it your business and ruin the surprise…I had just sent a Christmas package out to this LCPL. and his Mom. The flag was supposed to be a Christmas present. Thanks for ruining it.
3. If you had read the post I wrote about some particular Soldiers in its entirety, you would also read "this is not all of them". Yes, I had "chosen" those soldiers for a particular reason on that day. However, I don't have to defend my reasons to you.
4. Yeah, I'll make sure and spoil my children's Christmas and tell them there is no Santa. Wouldn't that be a real Christian thing to do?

I was really ticked off at this email. When I sign up to support a Soldier or Marine, I go way above and beyond what most people do. I spent hours listening and talking to the mother of this Marine. I sent this mother personal letters, photos and email. I personally called this Marine when he got home to thank him. I never ever expected anything in return from this Marine and never asked for anything.

I find this email to be one of the most selfish, insulting, anti-American emails I have ever read. Why? Because since when does anyone have the right to insult somebody for VOLUNTEERING to support our deployed. Where do you get the balls to say what I have done isn't enough? I used my personal money, my time, my heart, my soul, my efforts to make this Marine feel supported as well as his Mother.

I was so distraught by this email I showed it to my husband and we had a loud, lengthy discussion about this. His first reply was, "You need to get a thicker skin". We talked more about it and after I simmered down, I replied to his comment. "No, I don't think I'm the one who needs to change. It is people like Anne who need to change. If I get a thick skin I am no better than the liberal conformists who just turn into a takers. That's not who I am. I give because it is for me to know I am doing good without the expectation of anything in return. I don't deliberately call people names, set out to hurt people and live my life to the best of my ability." He agreed. Clearly Anne believes in the take, take, take theory with no gratitude for what I have done. I am of the give, give, give theory and am always grateful when something is done for me, no matter how small.

I'm sick and tired of people who get through life being selfish, insensitive, ungrateful, mean-spirited, and just damn wrong without consequence. I don't know how you get up in the morning and are able to look at yourself in the mirror. I don't know how you lay your head down at night knowing you intentionally set out to hurt another human being for no reason but your own personal anger. I don't know how you can call yourself a Mother when you want me to take away the tradition and spirit of Santa. I don't know where you think you have the right to say things about me when you don't know me. I don't know how you can say anything about God, when you do such mean-spirited things like this.

So, Anne, thank you for the lovely email Christmas greeting. It was truly a splendid gift. Be sure and tell the Mother and LCPL. to look for a package from me and my family. You can also tell them I wont ever darken their mailbox or telephone again. If you are any indication of the kind of "friends" they have, I dont want any part of them. Then again, did you send this Mom a copy of the email you sent to me? Maybe I should.

There are many, many other families I have supported who are more than grateful, without even saying it, and obviously more deserving than this. Call me as many names you want, Anne, may God have mercy on you. You are disgrace to all the millions of Americans who support our deployed. Even if they only are able to send a note or a card, they are doing the right thing and it is enough.

No, I don't need to get a thicker skin, other people need to stop and think before they open their mouths, just like Mutha Sheehan, Murtha, Dean and all the selfish ingrates.

Merry Christmas, Anne. Oh, and I hope Santa leaves you lots of goodies, I know he's visiting our house.

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THE GOOD THEY ARE DOING

The following article is from Defend America. It is a reminder that the MSM continues to only report the bad and not the positive things our troops are doing for Iraq and it's citizens.

Iraqi school children give their unanimous approval as 48th Brigade Combat Team soldiers delivered desks and school supplies to the Nor Al Ukem School. U.S. Army photo by Staff Sgt. Britt Smith
Soldiers Build and Deliver School Desks
Desks will enable students to have their own seat
rather than sitting two or three to a desk

By Staff Sgt. Britt Smith
48th Brigade Combat Team

CAMP ADDER, An Nasiriyah, Iraq, Dec. 16, 2005

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Sunday, December 18, 2005

SEE… I'M NOT THAT UPTIGHT!

You Are Vixen

Sexy and sultry, you're the one all the other reindeer dream about.

Why You're Naughty: That fur pulling spat you got into with Dancer over Santa.

Why You're Nice: Because even when you're nice, you're still delightfully naughty!

Which of Santa's Reindeer Are You?

Hat-tip over to Minivanmom….click above and see what you are.

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OUR STOCKINGS ARE HUNG BY THE CHIMNEY WITH CARE!

Well, our stockings are hung by the chimney with care in hopes that St. Nicholas soon will here!

Each year my kids decorate a stocking with glitter glue. It's amazing to see how individual they are.

Now one thing I noticed this year is how come the stocking with "Dad" on it is so much bigger than the rest? Could it be he deserves more? Or, just that his foot is the biggest of the family? Hmmm…. maybe it's because Santa has something special in store for him!

Another thing is that my son made a stocking for our cats. He even went out of his way to find a spare stocking holder to hang it up. Now I'm not saying our kitty's haven't been good, but what exactly is Santa supposed to put in there? Catnip, I suppose. The thing is, I'm having a hard time keeping them from climbing the trees and batting at the ornaments, do they really need something else to make them more frisky? Hmm….

Ah.. well, Guess we'll see what is in these stocking come Christmas morning. Wonder what will be in mine? Chocolates? Pez dispenser? Diamonds? Only 7 more days unti we find out!

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